This weekend I was invited to do a talk at a fitness event in London called ‘Fitflunce’. The team at Fitfluence host monthly events that include active workouts as well as delicious healthy food, lead by a panel of industry pros. Previously Fitfluence sessions have been lead by Alice Liveing aka @clean_eating_alice, Em Fury @EmFurey, Annie Clarke @mind_body_bowl and many more leading women in the fitness industry. I was very honoured to be asked to speak at the April event.
I’m very passionate about women’s health and fitness and anyone who’s ever met me will probably tell you that I talk a lot! 🙂 I wanted to share my ideas about confidence, how I have become more confident myself and also how I try to build confidence with my clients.
Here’s a little bit of what I had to say . . .
Over the last 5 years, I have had the opportunity to work with lots of different women. I have lead fitness classes and bootcamps as well as training with clients one to one. Spending a lot of time working with clients has helped me to learn a huge amount about people and the relationship between confidence and success.
Whenever I meet a new client, we always chose a goal that I know will help to motivate them to make positive changes to their lives. Regardless of their reason for training with me, this goal is NEVER an aesthetic goal. We don’t work towards a target weight and we don’t talk about dress sizes. We choose a physical goal, for example, completing a 5K run or mastering crow pose. We then set a date on the calendar and work towards that goal. Personally, I am far more motivate to train myself, when I know that I have a race coming up, so I always sign up for lots of different fun fitness events throughout the year.
Working towards an ‘ideal’ weight is boring and uninspiring. Even when you do reach that goal weight, what’s next? It’s human nature to want more and to continue to raise the bar. At least with my goal of running a 5k for example, when you cross the finish line you’ll have a shiny medal to show for it! 🙂 The hard work and the training is for a reason, you have achieved something, you may have raised some cash for charity or maybe you’ve inspired someone else to start running. Setting a challenge for yourself, will inevitably help you to become more active and to get fitter.
Achieving a fitness goal can also really help to build your confidence. The challenge that at first seemed overwhelming and daunting, then becomes something that you have completed. This can apply to other aspects of your life too, from applying for a job promotion to starting a new relationship. Once you start to believe in your own ability, you will be able to achieve whatever you put your mind to.
Think about how you value other people in your life, someone that you really love, a sister or a best friend. When you think about that person and what it is about them that you love, it probably has nothing to do with how they look. If you’re trying to build your own confidence, start by thinking about those things that people value in you. What are you good at? Are you fun to be around? Do you encourage other people? Remind yourself that you have a lot to offer and that people value you for who you are.
Here are the four key points that I believe can help us to become more confident.
There are so many more ways that we can become more confident, I told you that I talk a lot! 🙂 I’m thinking about filming a video about it for my YouTube channel. Let me know if you have any questions, I’ll try to include them. I really enjoyed meeting so many lovely women at the event and I hope that they found my talk useful.
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Thanks for reading, have a wonderful week!